She's so sweet!

Oh what a day today has been! Today my dad asked if L and I wanted to go to the store with him. I of course said yes because your girl loves grocery shopping! I also convinced L to go which on a normal day it would be like pulling teeth trying to get her to go out. Today she was pretty easy to convince to go with us awesome! We went to Costco and got a couple things there including some grade 2 books to get L ready for the new school year. (Honestly still on the fence about sending her) all was good. Dad decided that he needed to run to the dollar store to grab a couple things so off we went. Once at the parking lot to the store we started walking to the store dad was in front of us and L and I were holding hands behind him when suddenly I hit mud and my foot twisted and came out from under me and down I went my opposite knee hit the ground hard and then the rest of my body went down as well with my child right behind me. Thank goodness my purse and body caught her and she didn't end up getting hurt. She had no scratches or anything she was more worried about me then anything.  Of course dad didn't hear or see any of this and continued to the store leaving us behind. The car next to us on the other hand saw the whole thing and laughed. Lets just say my kid was not to happy about that person laughing at me and yelled at the car. Right then L turned into the sweetest little girl she was asking me if I was ok was I hurt all of the above and she was just all together concerned. She helped me walk (hobble) over to the bench outside the store and we sat there me covered in mud and bleeding from my leg and her just concerned. I ended up calling dad from outside the store letting him know what happened because clearly he had no clue. Once we carefully hobbled back to the car my sweet girl opened the car door for me and offered to get me a bandaid and ice when we got home. I'm glad I'm raising a sweet caring girl.  

What I'm doing to try and be a better mom

About a month ago I was taking my daughter to her gymnastics class and I noticed that one of the kids in her class were trying to get there moms attention but mom was on her phone and totally ignoring the kid. I felt really bad for the kid as she was trying so hard to get her attention. It was at that moment that I made a promise to myself to be a more attentive mom.

When I am at gymnastics if I can see my daughter out the viewing room window I make sure I watch her and that every time she looks up she sees me watching her. When I can't see her that is when I can look at my phone.

At night we have started a new tradition/bed time routine. I went and got a kids novel its 3 stories in 1 and its 33 chapters long. Every night we read a chapter of the book before bed while cuddled up. Sometimes if we are at a good part we will read 2 chapters. I find that since doing this L has been going to bed so much better than in the past and looks forward to our reading times.

Mother daughter dates! I have been trying to do a mother daughter date at least 1-2 times a month with L. We go to dinner or do something fun just the 2 of us next month we are going to go to Paw Patrol live together! L is super excited about this.

I am trying to put my phone down and or work down more often and playing with L wether it be a tickle battle playing a game or watching some video about something she was interested in.

If I do anything at all anything that could make a difference with my girl I hope that being more present in her life and showing her love in ways other than heres a new toy or let me buy you this I want her to appreciate time and time spent with me and other people in her life I want her to value things like that more so than valuing the things I buy her.

I have to say since I have implemented some of these rules or guidelines for myself I have seen a big improvement with L and her moods and how much we used to fight compared to now. She has been helping more and listening so much better. Hopefully this keeps up and I can raise a great kid!

Potty Training struggle at 4yrs

There are days where I sit down in a room alone and throw my hands up in the air and scream inside with frustration. I have heard so many stories of parents that have amazing potty training experiences or that it took a while but once they got it they were good to go and no more issues. Well this isn't the case for us ours is a little different from most that I have heard of.

It took forever for L to be potty trained don't get me wrong I started trying to train her at 2 1/2 but she refused. finally when she was 3 she started to get it and was doing really well she was going all day and night with no accidents and was doing great. She was out of diapers and pull ups and wearing her big girl underwear to daycare at home and to bed. We had finally rid our house of Diapers and I was so happy it was so much easier. Well a few months after she was potty trained and things were going well she got kicked out of daycare because our daycare wanted to take a kid that was going to be staying as we were going to be leaving in a few months as L was going to be starting school, No big deal I work from home so I made it work.

Well that first week home was horrible its like a switch went off and my child forgot everything about being potty trained she peed her pants at least 8 times the first day! 8 FRIGGIN TIMES!! She wasn't having accidents at night just during the day. I had no idea what to do about it I tried putting her on time outs but felt bad because I wasn't sure if she knew what was happening with her body maybe she didn't know that she had to pee maybe there was something wrong with her that she couldn't control it.

Time went on and she got a little better but we were still having random accidents every once in a while which I didn't totally get angry at as she was only just 4. finally we got back to where we were no accidents everything was good. Dun Dun Dun!! School started and so did the peeing of pants. I ended up making a deal with her that if she could go the whole month without having an accident that she could get a hatchimal (something she had been begging me for). The month came and went and she did pretty good she had one accident and I let it slid as it really wasn't her fault. All was good again or was it?

Fast forward a few more months and she started having accidents again! Like what is going on with this kid she has always been good with not peeing the bed and for some reason one week she peed every single night and not just a little pee like a lot of pee. She was having 2 accidents at least twice a week at school and I was struggling trying to understand her. I ended up making a drs appointment to go get her checked out as I was at a loss. We went and got asked a bunch of questions they ran some tests to see if she had an infection or something else wrong with her. We then went and she had an Xray to see if she had a blockage. Nothing, Nothing was wrong that the Dr could find so he told me he was going to refer me to a Paediatrician. Well that was in march and we still haven't gotten a call.

As of today L is in goodnights at night because she's not comfortable going without them at night now as she fears she's going to have an accident  which I totally get. During the day she has gotten a bit better but she is still having accidents at least once a week.  So at this point I'm at a loss and struggling to figure out what to do with her or how to get this under control. Maybe its something that we just need to wait out. I'm hoping that I can get a handle on it during the summer and we can get back on track.

Thanks so much if you have read this far! Please if you have any insight or suggestions Comment below because I'm going to loose my mind!

Weight Watchers Week #3 & #4 and what I have learned

 
Week 3

Well I was bad and skipped blogging about WW week #3 it really wasn't totally intentional but I had a lot going on. We went away for the weekend and I had my WW guidelines in my head and I tried to think about the points I was eating and drinking and tried to stay within a certain amount but I also tried to enjoy myself and have a couple drinks and what not. So After our weekend away it was time to weigh in and I was up +2.8lbs It sucked but in the same sense I knew it was coming I knew I was going to be up and therefore I was prepared for it. I was a little disappointed but as i said I had prepared myself to see a higher number on the scale that weigh in.

Week 4

Yesterday was weigh in day and normally I would try and do my blog that day. Yesterday turned into a very busy day starting in the morning so I ended up running around and doing other things that needed to get done instead. So I had gained weight the week before and knew I wanted to see a lower number yesterday. I was so hopeful I had tried to stay on track as much as possible and had tried to keep my steps up as well and keep moving which I find hard at times especially when I have a lot of work piling up. So Weigh in I stepped on the scale and entered it into my WW app and I was down -4.8lbs YAY!! I totally did a happy dance. I was so happy with myself. I am totally pumped and ready to see what I can do this week.

More about my experience with WW

My first time on the program I tried for a good couple months and my numbers were all over the place and  I got very discouraged. I never lost more than I believe it was 8lbs in that time and I just ended up giving up.

Now looking back at my first try and even my second try on WW I don't think I totally understood the program as much as I do now. I always thought that If I didn't eat all my points and I stayed well below my points that I would loose more weight and I also ate a lot of low point processed foods instead of healthy low point foods because it was easier. This is not the case you have to eat those points they actually tell you on the app that you should be in a certain range of point eating to give you the best results. So lets say I get 37SP a day and 42weeklies my range of eating that is good for me would be to eat 34-44SP a day. Awesome but that also means 34-44Sp in good for you foods not 34-44sp of chocolate or chips or something like that cause that defiantly wont work.

Another thing I have found helpful is I take pictures of most of my meals and post them on my instagram kind of as a food journal. And then this helps as well. But the biggest thing that is really nice is in the WW app there is this thing called Connect and its basically a WW chat instagram meets twitter kind of idea where you see people who are on WW posting their struggles and successes and everyone on there is very helpful and up lifting. I post my weigh ins each week and its amazing the encouragement you get from these people who don't know you at all.